Hi Jasmine, I enjoyed reading your comments and found much to agree with, most of it in fact. However, I think we probably are coming from different ends of the spectrum. Being a British guy and a bit of a ´thinker ´,I am definitely not one of those who shares all that much at all. It is rare for me to give a full account of my thoughts and emotions to anybody these days. Also, I do like to ´mull things over´, before acting or disclosing things, and on occasion, it can be useful to ´sleep on it´, before taking a strong course of action. Something else I do sometimes, at the end of the day, is to sit down and scribble my immediate, raw feelings onto a piece of paper, without judgement and without thinking......This can actually be very therapeutic, and can bring a little of our personal shadow side out into the light of day...Which is a good thing! Sometimes society´s mores and strictures can make for quite a confining experience. Best regards, J.
I think you are right. Privacy is more to do with appreciating and processing your ideas and thoughts yourself and perhaps not just keeping a secret. For me, privacy has always been just choosing what you share
I don't tend to share a lot. It does bother me though when people in moments of great happiness, e.g. a child's music recital, just stare into the phones and record it. They're not looking at their child, they check what is the best angle to record the child to show them to others. I get that you want to have memories. But can't those memories be within you? A few weeks ago I sat in my daughter's dance recital and watched her dance with so much confidence. I cried because it wasn't always that way. She was born too early and struggled from then on. Now she danced her heart out and you would have never guessed her past. And I was so so proud! So alone with my thoughts and memories, enhancing my pride. I didn't focus on the camera, I focused on the story of my child. And I was so happy - all on my own.
I mean, some of your words nailed it. But others make me think you're not quite there. At least, to where it's all clear to you.
So many others are too far away to see it.
You are zeroing in on what matters! How our mind actually works.
You're clearly a deep thinker. Most people are not. They stop themselves from figuring out what things mean. I don't really understand why, maybe it's from fear. Or maybe they "think" they're already "in control of their mind?"
Amo passear apenas com uma garrafa de água, um caderno, um livro, uma caneta e um lápis.
Tenho aprendido a carregar apenas esses cinco companheiros e em algumas vezes levo também um cartão físico junto, caso apareça a vontade de comer ou beber algo diferente. É libertador me desapegar do celular e do mundo digital.
I also think privacy gives us a certain sense of personal safety. Not everyone who watches our lives is genuinely happy for our successes, and that’s another reason some moments are worth protecting.
I couldn't agree more. I noticed something similar and have intended to create more "burned in my memory" experiences. The kind that, if I did take out my phone to collect proof, evidence, etc., would completely ruin the experience.
I also think the photo taking sessions create a need for more external validation about what we are doing, who we are with, if we're doing it right, if we are successful and a whole host of other ways we seek something outside of ourself, that when we keep and feel for ourselves first would eliminate the need to share for feedback at all.
And wow- life is so much quieter, in a really beautiful and unexpected way.
This really resonated with me. I’ve realised I often overshare because I’m looking for understanding. But afterwards it can feel like I’ve overindulged in ice cream good in the moment, then I leave feeling emotionally sick and overexposed. I’m learning that some experiences deserve to belong to me before they belong to everyone else.
Hi Jasmine, I enjoyed reading your comments and found much to agree with, most of it in fact. However, I think we probably are coming from different ends of the spectrum. Being a British guy and a bit of a ´thinker ´,I am definitely not one of those who shares all that much at all. It is rare for me to give a full account of my thoughts and emotions to anybody these days. Also, I do like to ´mull things over´, before acting or disclosing things, and on occasion, it can be useful to ´sleep on it´, before taking a strong course of action. Something else I do sometimes, at the end of the day, is to sit down and scribble my immediate, raw feelings onto a piece of paper, without judgement and without thinking......This can actually be very therapeutic, and can bring a little of our personal shadow side out into the light of day...Which is a good thing! Sometimes society´s mores and strictures can make for quite a confining experience. Best regards, J.
I so get this. This is why I really don’t do social media at all outside of this. I am so much happier without it.
I think you are right. Privacy is more to do with appreciating and processing your ideas and thoughts yourself and perhaps not just keeping a secret. For me, privacy has always been just choosing what you share
I don't tend to share a lot. It does bother me though when people in moments of great happiness, e.g. a child's music recital, just stare into the phones and record it. They're not looking at their child, they check what is the best angle to record the child to show them to others. I get that you want to have memories. But can't those memories be within you? A few weeks ago I sat in my daughter's dance recital and watched her dance with so much confidence. I cried because it wasn't always that way. She was born too early and struggled from then on. Now she danced her heart out and you would have never guessed her past. And I was so so proud! So alone with my thoughts and memories, enhancing my pride. I didn't focus on the camera, I focused on the story of my child. And I was so happy - all on my own.
I feel this when my first instinct is to pull out my phone to take a picture when I’m enjoying something irl!
Very true. We live in a world obsessed with attention and recognition. Sometimes it's hard to break away from that, but it is so worth it.
Actually, for those of us above a certain age, although I’m not entirely sure exactly what that age is, it is not our first instinct at all.
Jasmine, you're so close to getting it right!
I mean, some of your words nailed it. But others make me think you're not quite there. At least, to where it's all clear to you.
So many others are too far away to see it.
You are zeroing in on what matters! How our mind actually works.
You're clearly a deep thinker. Most people are not. They stop themselves from figuring out what things mean. I don't really understand why, maybe it's from fear. Or maybe they "think" they're already "in control of their mind?"
I'll give you a soft place to land.
https://BrainEngage.substack.com and https://jeffro.substack.com
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I do not feel a need to share. I share my thoughts, fears, and dreams hoping to connect with someone sharing the same insights.
Well written
Amo passear apenas com uma garrafa de água, um caderno, um livro, uma caneta e um lápis.
Tenho aprendido a carregar apenas esses cinco companheiros e em algumas vezes levo também um cartão físico junto, caso apareça a vontade de comer ou beber algo diferente. É libertador me desapegar do celular e do mundo digital.
I also think privacy gives us a certain sense of personal safety. Not everyone who watches our lives is genuinely happy for our successes, and that’s another reason some moments are worth protecting.
very pretty girl
I couldn't agree more. I noticed something similar and have intended to create more "burned in my memory" experiences. The kind that, if I did take out my phone to collect proof, evidence, etc., would completely ruin the experience.
I also think the photo taking sessions create a need for more external validation about what we are doing, who we are with, if we're doing it right, if we are successful and a whole host of other ways we seek something outside of ourself, that when we keep and feel for ourselves first would eliminate the need to share for feedback at all.
And wow- life is so much quieter, in a really beautiful and unexpected way.
This really resonated with me. I’ve realised I often overshare because I’m looking for understanding. But afterwards it can feel like I’ve overindulged in ice cream good in the moment, then I leave feeling emotionally sick and overexposed. I’m learning that some experiences deserve to belong to me before they belong to everyone else.
You're right, everyone has their own secrets; not everything has to be shared.
We have, are becoming cyborgs. We're not living, we're being herded and directed. Become FREE people, be yourself.